8月24日口譯文章：用肢體說話把握演講局 讓你自負爆棚
實在若何應用肢體說話並無甚麽明白的發起。究竟，跟著情況和措辭工具的分歧，你的肢體說話也會發生分歧的懂得。和本身老板又或是愛好的女士/男生談天時，你的肢體說話固然會不同樣啦。下面是對肢體說話的一樣平常懂得，能讓你和本身的身材更好的調和相同哦。
起首，要轉變本身的肢體說話，你必需先要意想到它。留意一下本身的坐姿和站姿、手勢和腿的行動，和和他人措辭時你都邑怎樣表示。
大概你會想在鏡子前面演習演習，仿佛有點傻，但沒人會曉得的，怕啥呀。這類演習會給你反饋，告知你你在他人眼中的印象，也算是讓你進入實際天下以前，給本身一個演習的機遇。
另有一點，你可以閉上眼睛想象一下若何讓本身的站姿和坐姿看起來更自負、慷慨和放松，再想一想你想交換的器械。用觀察遲疑者的眼力來評價本身，然後就勇敢的表示出來吧。
你也大概會想鑒戒同夥們，模特，片子明星或其他活動優雅的人們的行動習氣。看看他們有甚麽好的活動，你還缺哪些。從分歧的人身上逐步學，然後把學到的用在本身身上吧。
不要交織手臂或腿
你應當聽過不要交織手臂，如許會讓你看起來位於戒備狀況且具備進擊性。腿最佳也不要交織起來哦，讓手臂和腿天然點吧。
眼神交換很需要，但別盯著他人看
假如你同時親睦幾小我措辭，時時地給他們一些眼神交換有助於外交，也能通曉他們是不是在諦聽。但是過量的眼神交換大概會把人嚇跑哦。完整不給眼神交換會讓他人認為你這小我躲躲閃閃弗成信。假如你認為眼神交換很艱苦抑或會畏懼，也要戰勝一下，不久你就會習氣啦。
多去占用一些空間
好比兩腿離開的坐著或站著能增加自負，還能泄漏你對本身的狀況覺得很舒暢哦。
放松肩膀
覺得重要的時刻老是不自發地收緊肩膀，因而肩膀就會向上且向前傾。試著放松，擺動一下肩膀，把肩膀故意識的後傾點吧。
諦聽時別忘了頷首
時時時頷首是你在諦聽的旌旗燈號。但萬萬別過火了，把本身釀成成啄木鳥伍迪了哦。
別耷拉著，坐直了
但也不消太拘束哦，放松點就行了。
斜靠著，別太甚
假如你想表示對他人說的話感興致，就輕微向措辭的誰人人歪斜一點。假如你想表示的是自負，那就輕微今後仰一點吧。但也別太過火哦，太接近會讓你看起來急於獲得他人的承認，今後仰的太甚會讓你有間隔感。
微笑和大笑
笑起來，別板著個臉啦。放松點，他人說好玩的工作的時刻無妨微笑或大笑。假如你是個陽光的人，人們也會更願意與你交換哦。但本身的笑話，萬萬別第一個笑，如許只會讓你看起來又重要又忐忑。當同夥把你先容給新的人熟悉時，時可以臉上帶微笑，但也別一向笑，不然會看起來不真摯。
別摸臉
這會讓你更重要，還會疏散攀談入耳者的留意力。
別垂頭
別一向看地上啦，會讓你看起來不真摯外加分心哦。把頭擡起來，眼神也專註點吧。
慢一點
許多事都須要慢一點。走慢點，你不但能更鎮靜和自負，還能讓本身削減壓力感。假如有人喊你，別立馬伸著脖子去回應，逐步的轉頭反而會更好哦。
別坐立不安，也別賡續地換姿態，或是經由過程抖腿或時時用手指敲打桌子來轉達本身的重要。
想戰勝甚麽艱苦，坐立不安只會讓你分心和重要。穩住本身，放松，慢下來，埋頭本身的行為吧。
在表達概念時，別再讓手無處安置啦，自負點，也別總在談天的時刻玩手指或是撓臉哦。
無妨用手比畫比畫來加深你的概念表達。但也別太甚了，不然會疏散他人的留意力。也別把手一向垂在那裏。
水杯放低點
別總把水杯放在胸前。現實上別把任何器械放在胸前，這只會讓你看起來非常防備外加有間隔感。放低點，不如放在腿邊吧。
挺直脊椎
許多人(包含我本身)大概都邑一向把背挺直的站著坐著。大概有些人認為脊椎末尾是在脖子那，是以每每會往前伸脖子，但實在脊椎的末尾是在後腦勺這邊。以是挺直脊椎，讓本身看起來更精力吧。
別站的太近
咱們都曉得對方發言者假如站得太近是異常奇異的一件事，尊敬他人的空間，別侵占。
模擬
每每你和他人開端打仗，假如幹系不錯，你就會不自發地開端模擬她，也便是或多或少效仿他人的肢體說話。假如幹系再密切點，你可以更自動點，人家向前傾，你也能夠向前傾。假如她把手放在大腿上，那你也如許好了，只是別模擬的太頻仍。
立場好
最主要的是，立場要踴躍、慷慨和放松。你的體驗會經由過程肢體說話轉達出來，會發生很大的影響。
你可以轉變本身的肢體說話，但全部的新習氣都須要一段時光來順應。好比假如你一向都低著頭走路，演習擡開端大概要一段時光的。
【參考譯文】
There is no specific advice on how to use your body language. What you do might be interpreted in several ways, depending on the setting and who you are talking to. You’ll probably want to use your body language differently when talking to your boss compared to when you talk to a girl/guy you’re interested in. These are some common interpretations of body language and often more effective ways to communicate with your body。
First, to change your body language you must be aware of your body language. Notice how you sit, how you stand, how you use you hands and legs, what you do while talking to someone。
You might want to practice in front of a mirror. Yeah, it might seem silly but no one is watching you. This will give you good feedback on how you look to other people and give you an opportunity to practise a bit before going out into the world。
Another tip is to close your eyes and visualize how you would stand and sit to feel confident, open and relaxed or whatever you want to communicate. See yourself move like that version of yourself. Then try it out。
You might also want observe friends, role models, movie stars or other people you think has good body language. Observe what they do and you don’t. Take bits and pieces you like from different people. Try using what you can learn from them。
1. Don’t cross your arms or legs
You have probably already heard you shouldn’t cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or guarded. This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open。
2. Have eye contact, but don’t stare
If there are several people you are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure. If you are not used to keeping eye-contact it might feel a little hard or scary in the beginning but keep working on it and you’ll get used to it。
3. Don’t be afraid to take up some space
Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin。
4. Relax your shoulders
When you feel tense it’s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly。
5. Nod when they are talking
Nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don’t overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker。
6. Don’t slouch, sit up straight
But in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner。
7. Lean, but not too much
If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you’re confident in yourself and relaxed lean back a bit. But don’t lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant。
8. Smile and laugh
Lighten up, don’t take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don’t be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don’t keep a smile plastered on your face, you’ll seem insincere。
9. Don’t touch your face
it might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation。
10. Keep your head up
Don’t keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon。
11. Slow down a bit
This goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, don’t snap your neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead。
12. Don’t fidget and try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table rapidly。
You’ll seem nervous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across. Declutter your movements if you are all over the place. Try to relax, slow down and focus your movements。
13. Use your hands more confidently instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say。
Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make. But don’t use them to much or it might become distracting. And don’t let your hands flail around。
14. Lower your drink。
Don’t hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don’t hold anything in front of your heart as it will make you seem guarded and distant. Lower it and hold it beside your leg instead。
15. Realise where you spine ends
Many people (including me until recently) might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. However, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore crane the neck forward in a Montgomery Burns-pose. Your spine ends in the back of your head. Keep you whole spine straight and aligned for better posture。
16. Don’t stand too close
One of the things we learned from Seinfeld is that everybody gets weirded out by a close-talker. Let people have their personal space, don’t invade it。
17. Mirror
Often when you get along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. That means that you mirror the other person’s body language a bit. To make the connection better you can try a bit of proactive mirroring. If he leans forward, you might lean forward. If she holds her hands on her thighs, you might do the same. But don’t react instantly and don’t mirror every change in body language. Then weirdness will ensue。
18. Keep a good attitude
Last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and can make a major difference。
You can change your body language but as all new habits it takes a while. Especially things like keeping you head up might take time to correct if you have spent thousands of days looking at your feet。
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