從失戀中學到的7件小事

　　從失戀中咱們能學到的7件小事

　　1. Everyone needs free space

　　每小我都須要自由空間

　　Many people think that a true love means that they should spend 24 hours a day together with the person they love. Such schedule will make you lose your identity in a quite short period of time. Remember, everyone needs some free time and space to satisfy their personal needs and do things that make them feel alive. By all means, don’t let your identity die, because it will be difficult to bounce back.

　　很多人以為，真愛象征著他們應當24小時和愛人在一路。但是如許的日程支配會讓你很快就落空自我。記著，每小我都須要一些自由時光跟空間來知足他們小我的需求、做一些能讓他們感到充斥活氣的工作。不管若何，不要損失自我，由於找回自我會很艱苦。

　　2. The lust period is temporary

　　豪情只是臨時的

　　This wonderful period usually makes you fly on the wings of love. When you are extremely happy, you spend hours dressing to impress your partner and talking about love till the dawn. Unfortunately, the period of butterflies in the stomach ends fast andamorousness turns into a real and adequate love. Love is the period when you are ready to share both good and bad with the person you love. Love really grows when you have no fear to lose and when you absolutely accept all pros and cons of your significant other.

　　愛情中豪情四射的這個奧妙階段，平日會讓你愛情的小同黨飛個一直。當你異常愉快的時刻，你會花許多時光裝扮本身來感動你的朋友，跟他評論辯論戀愛直到天明。不幸的是，這段心中小鹿亂闖的時代會很快停止，豪情釀成了一種真正充足的愛。這段時代的戀愛，是你預備好跟你的愛人分享你的好與壞。愛只有在你不害怕落空、完整接收另外一半的好與壞的時刻才會真正發展。

　　3. Other people don’t belong to you

　　他人其實不屬於你一小我

　　Nowadays we live in a democratic world where people are free and have equal rights and responsibilities. Moreover, we are free to express ourselves and lead an independent life. No matter how long you’ve been together, you should understand that the person you love isn’t your property. People who really love each other are committed to this beautiful feeling and treat each other with respect. Your love is your muse but not your possession. You cannot control the behavior and every step of your partner, because it will only break trust in your relationship. The only adequate thing you can do is to trust him and try to create common rules of commitment both of you should stick to.

　　現在的咱們生存在一個民主的社會裏，每小我都是自由的、他們具有一致的權力和義務。除此以外，咱們可以自由地表達本身的設法主意，過自力的生存。無論你們在一路多久了，你都應當明確你愛的誰人人不是你的小我產業。真正相愛的兩小我會對這段美好的情感實行許諾、相互尊敬。你的愛是你本身的設法主意而非真正占領。你不克不及掌握另外一半的全部行動，由於這只會損壞你們之間的信賴。你獨一能做的便是信任他，試著去發明一種你們兩小我都能遵照的許諾規矩。

　　4. Complete yourself

　　完美你本身

　　I do agree that other people can improve you and fill your life with joy and wonderful colors, but you should realize that people will never complete you or live up to your expectations. There’s no need for validation from your partner. First of all, you should learn to cultivate self-love before you can share it with your beloved. Try to develop yourself until you find yourself confident and complete. It requires you to change your actions, thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

　　我贊同其別人可以或許贊助你進步自我、而且讓你的生存加倍美妙和豐碩多彩，然則你應當意想到，人們永久不會去玉成你大概知足你的盼望。沒有需要事事都要獲得另外一半的同意。起首，在可以或許和愛人分享你的愛以前，你要學會愛本身。試著晉升本身，逐步地你會變得加倍自負、加倍完全。這就須要你轉變你的行為、設法主意、情緒和言行舉止。

　　5. Don’t even try to change your partner

　　不要試圖轉變你的另外一半

　　You can change many things in this world, but it’s almost impossible to change your partner’s outlook and habits. All you can do is to show the right path to your partner and if they have an internal desire to change, they’ll make a shift. A humanpsyche has the capacity to ignore things and ideas strongly imposed by others. This way your partner may achieve temporary improvements and then return to their casual habits again. If you cannot stand something in your partner, then you should shift your energy and react to the situation in a different way. It’s better to stay calm and respond everything in cold blood.

　　在這個天下上你可以許多器械，然則險些弗成能轉變另外一半的概念和習氣。你所能做的只是把一些準確的辦法展示給他們，假如他們心坎想要轉變的話，他們會自動做出轉變的。人類的魂魄會習氣性疏忽他人強加給他們的思惟或行動，用強加的方法大概會讓你的另外一半臨時獲得進步，然則不久以後他們又會回到本來的模樣。假如你不克不及忍耐另外一半的某些缺陷，你就應當把精神放在轉變本身身上，用分歧的方法去敷衍各類狀態。無論面臨甚麽工作，都最佳堅持沉著。

　　6. Get rid of your inner conflicts

　　解脫你心坎的糾結

　　Your attitude and behavior in your relationship can be the reflection of your fears and anxiety which reign in your sub consciousness. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you should start from healing your inner world from fears and conflicts. Plus, you need to do all possible things to boost your self-esteem. Begin to love yourself and you’ll be able to share your love with somebody else.

　　你在愛情中的立場和行動活動，都邑反應出你潛意識裏的恐怖和擔心。假如你想要有一段康健的愛情幹系，你就應當從治愈你心坎天下的恐怖和擔心開端。另有，你須要盡量地做一些晉升本身自負心的工作。開端愛惜本身，如許你才可以或許去愛他人。

　　7. Learn how to let go gracefully

　　學著優雅地撒手

　　It seems that some relationships teach us how to honorably let go. After a considerable reflection on the opportunity to build a happy and healthy relationship, you may realize that this love doesn’t cost your time and energy to continue. Unhappy relationships teach you to struggle for happiness. Furthermore, you should use the opportunity to let go of the past in order to be able to find the true love of all your life and cultivate a long and loving relationship. Don’t become disheartened the next time you face a relationship break-up, because it may help you develop a new vision of the world and start a better relationship.

　　仿佛有一些愛情總會教咱們怎樣去面子地撒手。在樹立一個幸福和康健的愛情幹系過程當中，相稱多的反思以後，你會明確這份愛不會再持續糟蹋你的時光和精神。煩懣樂的愛情教會你如作甚幸福做奮斗。除此以外，你應當掌控此次對曩昔撒手的機遇，從而可以或許找尋你性命中的真愛、並和TA造就一段長期有愛的愛情幹系。當你再次面對分別的時刻，別灰心，由於這有助於你換個視角看天下、並開端新的愛情。